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  • Recovering Calvinist?

    Jun 6th 2005

    By: tom cottar

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    At longshot’s inquiry, I’ll take a stab at explaining why I feel the way I do…

    Most of us are familiar with Calvinism. You remember TULIP, right? Total Depravity, Unconditional Election, Limited Atonement, Irrestible Grace, and Perserverance of the Saints.

    Because most of my formative and adult years I was surrounded by Calvinists ,(parents, pastors, professors, etc), even those who didn’t express themselves as such, I always assumed that the ‘ol TULIP was right–even before I knew it was labeled as such.

    As I have searched the scriptures and examined my own journey, I’m finding out that I’m a little bit Calvinist AND Arminian. (Why is Donnie and Marie’s “She’s a Little Bit Country And He’s A Little Bit Rock-N-Roll” bouncing in my head?)

    I’ll explain.
    Total Depravity agrues that the entire process of salvation (election, redemption, regeneration) is the work of God and is by grace alone. Thus God, not man, determines who will be the recipients of the gift of salvation. Arminianism suggests that man plays a role in ‘choosing’ to accept this grace and somewhat ‘cooperate’ with God in the process. God has provided salvation to everyone, but man makes his provision effective by choosing according to the free will God grants him. Man takes more of a decisive role.

    As far as the Free Will vs. Predestination/Election issue goes, I see it like walking thru a doorway. On this side, the side above it reads ‘Whosever Will May Come’. Once we are on the other side, you look back and it reads ‘Those He Foreknew He Also Predestined to Become Sons of God’. Calvinism would argue that God bestows faith on those whom He elected before the foundation of the world, regardless of any forseen reaction to obedience (like winning the lottery). Arminianism agrues that election is based on God’s sovreign knowledge of what man would do in response to his grace.

    Limited Atonement (Calvinism) states that Christ’s death secured salvation only for the elect. Arminism agrues that it secured salvation for anyone, but that it will be the elect who respond.

    One caveat: Arminism also argues that the elect can lose their salavation by falling from Grace. Calvinism supports the idea that all who are chosen by God, redeemed by Christ, and given faith by the Spirit are eternally saved. They are kept in faith by the power of Almighty God and thus persevere to the end. Having experienced an incredible amount of unfathomable grace in the past few years, my spirit resonates much more loudly with this point of Calvinism.

    Of course, I some incredible, godly friends who are hardcore 5-point Calvinists (Hi, Jimmie!). We are brothers in the truest sense.

    I could be wrong in my belief system, but this is where the journey has led me today. And if, when I see Him face to face, He says, “Dude…you were so off…”, I’m okay with that.

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  • Emergent Threat

    Jun 4th 2005

    By: tom cottar

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    I am emergent. I am conservative. But I am not MPD [multiple personality disorder]. Can the two live in harmony?

    Terms like ‘emergent’ and ‘postmodern’ are dangerous and often heretical.

    Primarily because each one has hundreds of imposed definitions. As of late, the emergent movement/church has been a big topic of debate among conservative [SBC] circles especially. Even in the most recent issue of SBC Life. The ‘younger leaders’ dialogues with Jimmy Draper. The un-inviting of Brian McLaren to the Kentucky State Convention over a [mis-quoted] statement he made…the list goes on.

    As a member of The Ooze, I’ve been refreshed by the emergent conversation for the past few years. This week, Spencer Burke, Brian McLaren,Tony Jones, and others have posted a collective statement about what their view of ‘emergence’ is and is not…

    It is WELL worth your attention and discernment. You decide if it is heresy or a search for an authentic God?

    http://www.theooze.com/articles/article.cfm?id=1151

    I’d love to hear your comments!

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  • [what i worship]

    May 26th 2005

    By: tom cottar

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    I give lip service to this whole ‘God thing’
    Coming in here and praying and praising
    Lifting up holy hands, bending holy knees,
    while looking at my holy watch
    But this isn’t what I really worship
    If you want to see my worship
    Don’t stand next to me here in this place
    Don’t look at my words and my prayers
    And all of my learned motions that come
    Not from my heart, but from what I have seen others do
    Don’t look at the way I speak, parrot-like, the words I hear others say
    If you want to know what I really worship
    Walk with me
    Follow me
    Live with me
    Crawl into my head and see where my thoughts go
    Go through the days and weeks of my life with me
    And see what I worship not by what I say
    But by how I live.

    You wanna know what I worship?
    I worship food
    In ways that are far from natural
    I think about it most of the day
    Chicken, pizza, cheeseburgers, steak and cheese sandwiches,
    Hot wings, lasagna, shrimp tacos from Chuy’s, mustard on everything, fast food, good food, greasy spoon food, barbeque Dungeoness crab from Joe’s Crab Shack, Chic-fil-a waffle fries, Venti No-whip mocha from Starbucks
    Mmmm…Starbucks…
    O great god of coffee, I bow to your caffeinated greatness

    You wanna know what I worship?
    I worship gadgets
    If it blinks and has a power cord I will sing its praise
    I will bring it offerings of money and time
    O Lord Laptop, when I in awesome wonder
    Consider all your 15 inch display
    Your wireless net, your cd-rom for burning
    I love your power for all the games I play
    Then sings my soul, my laptop, god to thee
    How Great thou art, How great thou art


    You wanna know what I worship?
    I worship other people
    I may not walk up to you and bow to you
    I don’t sacrifice live chickens at your feet
    But I do worship you
    Putting my feelings of self-worth,
    of security,
    of am I good enough,
    of am I smart enough, cute enough, cool enough
    In your hands
    Spending most of my time trying to find new ways for you to like me
    New ways to make sure that you don’t leave me
    Run from me
    Find someone cooler
    New ways to make sure you don’t
    Find someone more fun

    You wanna know what I worship?
    When you push past everything else
    When you stop believing the lies
    that even I believe
    When you tear off the curtain and show the wizard
    For who he really is
    When you add up all of the
    Time spent
    And thoughts spent
    And emotions spent
    And energy spent
    And talents spent
    You find the throne of my worship
    And on the throne
    Sits me
    You wanna know what I worship?
    I worship me
    and I don’t want to do it anymore.

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  • [my own little cyber-corner]

    May 26th 2005

    By: tom cottar

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    Welcome to tomcottar’s blog, watch out for up-to-date rants, reviews, and other random observings!

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  • Community On The Fly?

    May 26th 2005

    By: tom cottar

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    How would you define ‘community’? It’s almost a ruined word, I know. In fact, a friend sent me an email this week telling me so [and he's a pretty bright guy]. But what does it mean really? Is it ‘fellowship’? Eating together? Sharing life’s burdens?

    The following are some random thoughts from that email:

    Community means availability. It means time spent together. Real time.
    Time for conversation, interaction, and a deepening of communion, of
    intimacy between 2 or more people. Community is never general or generic.
    It is always specific and definable by people spending time together.
    Now, time spent together does not guarentee community. There has to be a
    certain quality to the time spent together. Time doesn’t guarentee it but
    it is a pre-requisite.

    Community means vulnerability. If we aren’t willing to open up our lives
    to others we will never experience true community. This is why mutual
    confession builds community. We come to the table with our strengths and
    our weakenesses and we lay ourselves bare, exposed to the scrutiny and
    more importantly the love, acceptance and forgiveness of others.

    Community means stability. If we want to experience community, we need to be
    rooted somewhere among some people. If we constantly move on in search of
    greener pastures we will not be around long enough to grow the roots
    necessary for community. Community can not happen on the fly.

    What do you think? How would you define biblical community? What is it that makes a youth group, or a church, or a neighborhood so bound together that they weather any storm that comes? In fact, in community, they not only survive, but flourish….what makes that possible?

    If the above comments are the theory of building community, where are the nuts-and-bolts? How do you convince people to spend large amounts of time together? How do you convince them that the fruit is worth the time-investment? How do you reach the point of mutual confession and vulnerability?

    Our student ministry has endured the 40 Days routine, survived small groups, and has built a nice little club that doesn’t readily accept strangers. It does ‘fellowship’ well, but ‘community’? Not so much…

    While we are turned inward, all the world sees is a bunch of rears…

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  • Tr33top was here [for about a day]

    May 23rd 2005

    By: tom cottar

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    So, a few nights ago, [Wednesday, May 18, to be exact] I got my house tagged by some low-rent, gangbanger wannabe. “Tr33top. CK-65″ Whatever that means. I came home from my evening jog [I'm up to 6 miles now] and there was our local Travis County five-0 in my driveway, protecting and serving my newly violated fence. It seems that three young men, a couple cans of spray paint, and a few spare moments of free time converged on my privacy fence while I was out trying to raise my pulse. I guess I could have stayed home and done that.

    I live in a decent neighborhood in north Austin [TX]. A place where families walk the neighborhoods in the evenings, kids ride bikes, people jog, etc. It’s also a multi-ethnic and multi-economic clump of families. A pretty good cross section of our demographic. I had taken off on a jog in order to think and pray specifically about ways our ministry can be intentionally more missional.

    I’m glad we got tagged. One of my neighbors (total stranger at the time) came by after he got off work the next night [at 9pm].

    “I’ve got a power washer at my house. If you don’t mind, I’ll run home and get it and I’ll wash this stuff off for you.”

    Huh?

    I was pretty dumbfounded. “Uh. Um. Well,….okay.”

    Austin. 9pm. A total stranger asks if he can do me a favor.

    I’m feeling guilty at his offer of kindness (in Big Church we call that ‘grace’), so I go out to help him. Actually, I just stand there and make with the chatter.

    It turns out that he and his wife live a few doors down. They’re newly married. No kids. He works at Dell and loves to fish. In my mind, I’m wondering why this guy is so nice. He’s talking about work and how he sits behind a desk and how he doesn’t mind getting soaked doing this because he needs the exercise.

    As he works, I notice that the pressure washer is taking off the spray paint…along with the ‘color’ of the fence, which he explains is just mildew and my fence will look like new when he’s done.

    [He's right. Just like when Christ entered my life, He took away the stuff I was aware of, but He also took away the things I had grown accustomed to. All new...]

    We set up a weekend to get together and cookout with the families. We talked about fishing together after he gets done with a big work project. We laughed. Told jokes. Talked about work, marriage, and adulthood. Then he asked the big question: “What do you do?”
    Here it comes, I thought. Maybe this guy is a believer.

    “I’m a minister.”

    “Oh. Cool.”

    “Yeah, Sunday is my only day to sleep in. And fish. Maybe you and I can go fishing after church one weekend.”

    And the conversation moved on.
    In a sense, he really ministered to me. I was worried about how our ministry can be more missionally minded, and my seemingly lost neighbor showed me what I needed to be doing.

    The Bottom Line:
    What if we, The Body, intentionally spent more time and energy meeting the needs of our literal and physical neighbors vs. the etheral ones across the planet? I know I people in Sudan need Jesus, but so do the punks that tagged my fence. Have we neglected ‘Jerusalem’ for the sake of Samaria? And, is it possible for the unbeliever to minister to the believer? Does God use ‘worldly’ kindness to express grace to The Body?

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  • The Tao of Anthony Keidis

    May 17th 2005

    By: tom cottar

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    Red Hot Chili Peppers.

    Blood. Sugar. Sex. Magik.

    Give It Away…..Remember?
    What I’ve got you’ve got to give it to your mama.
    What I’ve got you’ve got to give it to your papa.
    What I’ve got you’ve got to give it to your daughter.
    You do a little dance and you drink a little water…

    Realize i don’t want to be a miser.
    Confide with sly, you’ll be the wiser.
    Young blood is the lovin’ upriser.
    How come everybody want to keep it like the Kaiser?

    Give it away, give it away, give it away now….

    But not for most of us. Someone once said ‘our houses are just boxes for our stuff’. ..We get more stuff, so we need bigger houses to put our stuff in. Then our stuff starts to break or get old (or someone else gets newer, better stuff) and we have to buy MORE stuff…

    Then I remember someone else saying something about ‘if you see someone in need, give to him without expecting to be repaid’. In other words, travel light. The less ‘stuff’ I have, the less I have to worry about fixing, insuring, replacing, protecting, storing, and replacing it.

    Yeah, I need some stuff: transportation, food, shelter, water and electricity, a few clothes. But what do I REALLY need? If I can learn to travel light, will the journey be better?

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  • The Blessed Hellride

    May 16th 2005

    By: tom cottar

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    Uh…The Blessed Hellride? What’s that about? (Glad you asked…) The title is blatantly stolen from a BLS album, fronted by Zakk Wylde, guitarist for Ozzy. And here’s why…

    A few years ago I realized some things about my life.

    1. It’s not about me. No matter how prestigious my ‘job’ is or how much money I make, it’s all polishing brass on the Titanic. It will all be gone in a few short years. In fact, on a long enough timeline, it will happen to all of us. For me, I decided to travel light.

    2. The circumstances which led me to this realization were painful and costly. All the things I said I’d never become? They showed up in the mirror one morning while I was climbing my way up. When my [then] 2 year old pointed to a picture of a hotel and said “Daddy’s house” I knew it was time to bail. While I was accumulating shiny things, my little boy had a void that only I could fill.

    3. Other circumstances followed. My realization was that, without the blessing of the misery I was in, I wouldn’t have made the change in my life. Thank God for the misery.

    Changing your life is never easy, whether it’s a job or a exercise routine. But the ‘hellride’ produces things in you that you never knew were there. While it’s miserable at the time, the end result can be sweet fruit. It’s a Blessed Hellride.

    So, thank God (and Zakk) for the Blessed Hellride.

    Any similar experiences?

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  • I’m finally here…

    May 15th 2005

    By: tom cottar

    1 comment

    Ok…ok….I FINALLY got my own blog….welcome to the 90′s, huh? Keep your eyes peeled for great revelations, deep insights and other rants and raves along the way….

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