In the 2008 hit movie Juno, Juno’s father tells his teenage daughter, who has just disclosed that she is pregnant, “I didn’t know you were that kind of girl,” to which Juno replies, “I don’t know what kind of girl I am.”
Gone are the days when good girls “don’t” and bad girls “do.” Now good girls might, sometimes, depending on their feelings for the guy and who the guy is. Good girls, according to current cultural norms, should be concerned with how they look and express interest in boys, and they probably shouldn’t be too uptight about sex. And aren’t girls supposed to want to get their needs met, at least a little, too?
These rules, murky as they are, can also backfire. Girls can end up pregnant like Juno (or Bristol Palin), they can inadvertently cross the slippery boundary between “hot” and “slutty,” or they can be victimized and subsequently blamed for it.
And then, there are the teflon-coated guys… who are just as confused and clueless and misguided, but don’t pay the same price as young girls for their choices. Reputations and lables don’t stick to them as readily, so they continue to skate freely, still misguided.
Each spring our ministry puts together a six-session study called Sex Camp. Aimed at our middle schoolers and high schoolers, we attempt to paint some foundational concrete about sexuality, purity, and relationships, as well as cover some practical, prescriptive ideas for dating and purity. We try to lay the foundation, not specifically for the act of sex, but for the act of being human, underscored with one single principle: pursing Jesus brings life, just as pursing sin brings death. The illustration we use is that of our solar system: Jesus is not at the top of our priority list, but at the center of our universe. Everything must revolve around him or the result is disastrous. He is the Son/Sun. (Yes, Jesus is the big ball of gas in the midst of our existence!)
We typically cover the following topics:
- Jesus: The Big Ball of Gas
- Sex and the Supremacy of God
- What If I’ve Blown It? (Grace)
- Should I Date (and How to Date Well)
- How Far Is Too Far? (which is a bad question, btw…)
- Lost in the Wilderness (Pornography, Abortion, Homosexuality), including resources from XXXChurch and Abort73.
Here’s where YOU come in. If you could write the curriculum, what topics would you want covered? What points would you make? What discussions would you want to make sure took place? And what about PARENTS? Recognizing the fact that multitudes of parents have trouble talking to their kids about sex, what would be of aid for them?
Any and every thought or idea you have is appreciated…